Sudden Death

Being rich or poor does not keep us from being touched by grief. Grief is not a respecter of persons, grief reaches into royal castles and the oval office as easily as it does in ordinary places.

There is the horrendous sound of crunching metal, the beautiful Diana dies and two young boys who once had everything, now are without a mother. Grief has moved past palace guards and thick walls to consume a family, and a nation.

In Washington D.C. a young presidential family suffered the loss of a premature baby son. The pictures showed a heavy spirit of grief on the survivors faces as the tiny casket of Patrick Kennedy is lowered into the ground. Grief moved into and saddened a whole nation when the young President Kennedy was assassinated. Millions of people felt the pain of a heavy spirit of grief. National mourning began and even now some forty years later little twinges of grief remain.

A doorbell rings, a woman answers, there are two men in uniform, hat in hand, standing there. Before they even begin to speak, grief brings pain to the womanís face.

The television flashes "Special News Report" and a horrified nation sees airplanes full of innocent people crash in to buildings full of other innocent people. The cameras recorded the many faces of grief and the world wept.

An apparently healthy person walks out a door, falls to the floor or down the steps and never rises again. The family is stunned with grief.

Grief can be a cruel master. It can choke all the joy from our life. It can afflict us with sleepless nights, taunt nerves and befuddled minds. It can consume every moment of our daytime thoughts and even intrude rudely into our dreams.

Any type of loss can bring on grief, the loss of a job, a friendship, or even a family pet can trigger a heavy sorrow but the most common cause of grief is the death of a loved one. Many people simply cannot accept death, so when it comes they donít know how to respond and the grief of death hits them very hard.

When sudden death comes and takes a loved one we react with disbelief, thinking this canít be true. Denial is a normal response to un-welcome news. I experienced this when the news came to me of my seventeen year old son being struck by lightening. My mind rejected the possibility of death. I thought they must be wrong, injured maybe, but surely not dead.

Grief is like nitroglycerine, in very small amounts it can relieve the chest pain of a heart that is acting up. In large doses it can kill and in huge amounts it can explode killing many.

GRIEF CAN KILL US OR BLOW US TO BITS, depending on how we deal with it.

Feelings of disbelief, anger, guilt, fear, loneliness are all normal reactions to the loss of a loved one. We may experience some or all of these, they may pass quickly or linger for a while. When we allow grief to work itís way to conclusion, then healing will begin. With recovery comes hope. Hope for a new life filled with memories. Put hope and trust in God, seek godly counsel and allow healing to take place. Every person who crosses our paths becomes a part of us and it hurts when that person must leave. We will never forget them but we will experience joy again.